Jealousy is something many coaches see on their teams. However, a lot of emotions are labeled jealousy that aren’t. When an athlete believes they work just as hard (or harder) and are just as talented (or more talented) than someone else and the other person is given more playing time or the starting spot an athlete will be disappointed or frustrated. Jealousy occurs when someone thinks they deserve something that they haven’t worked for. For example, I might be jealous of Bill Gates’ money. I haven’t put in the investment of time, energy, blood, sweat and tears that he has to earn the money he has.
If you have an athlete who is legitimately jealous, sit down with her and outline what she needs to do to deserve more playing time or that starting spot. It is extremely important that you are honest about the possibility of her achieving what she wants. It might be, no matter how hard she tries she won’t get there (I could give 100% to trying to play in the NFL – not going to happen). Setting appropriate expectations will go a long way to easing jealousy.
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