How to Generate Productive Team Discussion

Getting your team to talk to each other and discuss how to be a more cohesive, successful team can be a challenge.  I recently received an email from a coach who, along with other coaches and some of their athletic administration, is reading “Stop The Drama! The Ultimate Guide to Female Teams”.  Their goal is to generate meaningful conversation.  In the email she asked me what questions I thought they should ask each other.  There are two ideas I shared with her I wanted to pass along to you.


One – When I share a tip or idea it is common for people to think “I know someone who can use that!”  Instead of jumping to other people who need help, think about how you might apply the idea in your own life.  Being able to understand and apply the idea yourself is the first step to being able to explain it and help others.


Two – Try to come up with real examples where effective communication or conflict resolution didn’t happen and talk about how it might have turned out differently if a specific tip was used.  It is always easier to think about something tangible (that really happened) rather than in the abstract.  Just be careful not to point fingers or cast blame during the discussion process.


If you are using my book to create meaningful conversation on your team, I would love to hear about it.  Email me at [email protected].  And if you have a question you are encouraged to email me as well.


Thank you for watching my video.  I look forward to seeing you again in the future and I wish you the MOST from your potential.

The Black Box of Hope


It is all too common for us to hope and assume that people understand us.  A man once said to me, “I am a great communicator.  I always say exactly what I mean.  It’s not my fault people don’t understand me.”  That isn’t true.  If someone doesn’t understand you it is your responsibility to rephrase what you are saying and try again.  We all use Black Box Communication sometimes.   We say something we think is clear and expect, by some miracle, the person listening to you will just understand.  Instead of assuming, verify that the person heard what you meant to say.  And when you are the listener, say things like, “What I think you said was…” and repeat back what you heard.  That will give someone the opportunity to correct a misunderstanding before it causes a problem.

If you have a question you’d like to ask, you can email me [email protected] or use the contact us page.  I hope this video was helpful. I wish you the most from your potential!